Do you wonder what it is like to hire a coach? Join us for our second annual Taste of Coaching event today at Central: May 22nd 11:30 am to 1:30 pm and tomorrow at Crowfoot: May 23rd 6:30 to 8:30 pm. We interviewed Carol and Anita about their experiences working with a coach. After working with a coach, Anita Yok Sim Ho was inspired to become a coach herself.
How did you find out about Coaching as an option?
Anita: I was very curious about professional coaching while being coached myself in a Leadership Program. I decided to push beyond my usual comfort zone and become a professional coach. To me, coaching is all about love for people and reminding them of their infinite personal potential.
Carol: I first learned about coaching through a friend when she mentioned she was finding it extremely helpful talking with a life coach. Her comment was in response to an observation I had made about how she seemed to have a greater zest for life lately. It was a couple of years after that conversation before I sought out a coach for myself when I was struggling to create and implement a plan for how to accomplish my vision of living somewhere warmer than Calgary in the winter months.
Was the process what you expected?
Anita: I have come to learn in life to expect the unexpected, which means I enjoy the sweetness and fullness of the present moment so much more and have many more possibilities than if I were stuck in a certain expectation. To be an effective Coach, you have to go through the depths of yourself first before you can really ask a client to do so. You have to walk the talk!
Anita Yok Sim HoCarol: I wondered how someone who didn’t know me and didn’t have any corporate or small business experience would be able to assist me. I was pleasantly surprised – no, totally amazed – to find that this coach could help me move forward without having much in common with me at all. I attribute this to the professional approach taken of creating a joint understanding of the outcomes I wanted to achieve through coaching, the presence and engagement of the coach as I explored and came to my decisions, her persistence with insightful observations and inquisitive questions designed to assist me in gaining greater clarity and subsequent encouragement so I would commit to the actions that would move me closer to my vision.
I have heard coaching described as having an experienced guide walking alongside and guiding you towards your own answers that lie within. Can you describe your experience of being coached?
Carol: For me, the coaching experience was an opportunity to dive into myself and discover both delightful strengths and characteristics that aligned with my vision and life objectives as well as a few key beliefs and behaviours that were working against what I said I wanted. Having a coach make objective observations and ask insightful questions was fundamental in helping me get real with my underlying motives. The coaching experience was the opportunity for me to have a neutral and confidential sounding board so I could talk ‘out loud’ about my ideas and how I wished to achieve them while not worrying about being judged or told what I should or shouldn’t do.
Anita: At CTI, which is considered as one of the Harvard’s of the Coaching Schools, I experienced an environment which cradles you in love, compassion and acceptance in all that you can be. There was absolutely no judgment from other coaches, only vast possibilities. I had say in whatever direction I choose for me, period. There were no excuses, approvals or “shoulds,” only what I wanted and that was all I needed! This resulted in a sense of clarity, focus, passion and peace of mind in all that I wanted in life. This leap of faith into the unknown has allowed me to live a life I never thought possible. Coaching respects and maintains your personal values while providing a structure of accountability to empower you to persevere in fulfilling all of your wishes, which is our natural birthright.
Did your coach talk about accountability? In other words, did they help you move forward and keep to your plan?
Anita: Coaching is all about accountability and self-responsibility. Life happens and we often become unfocussed and push away our needs and focus on the needs of others. In coaching, the focus is always on the client’s interests to ensure precise continued forward movement and growth.
Carol: Yes, we definitely spoke about accountability and accountability partners – people in my life that I can call upon to support me achieve success in a specific action or activity. What I liked is that we also looked at the potential internal and external barriers to me achieving the actions I committed to at each coaching session.
Is coaching like most things in life, whereby if you put your whole self forward, you are likely to receive more in return?
Carol: Absolutely!I quickly realized what a treat I had given myself to be able to voice and work through my ideas, visions and plans in a safe confidential environment that also encouraged me to consider alternate perspectives simply by offering a non-judgmental observation or question.I could physically feel the change in my energy level both during and after the coaching experience.Since that first coaching experience, I continue to invest in regular coaching for myself because of the tremendous value I get from these precious moments of 'me time.'
Anita: Absolutely! I feel so honored when a client puts their trust in me and decides to lay their cards out on the table in order to truly take the driver’s seat in life. I greatly admire my clients for their courage and strength in sharing the hopes and dreams that fell away or got lost somewhere along the way. For me, life is meant to be lived passionately and to its fullest expression. If you are going to be living, live BIG!
Many thanks to Carol and Anita for sharing their experiences. Anita Yok Sim Ho from Holistic Balance is an Integrative Health & Wellness Professional Coach.